I have written a few books where a reader would say in a comment that the main make character is too controlling, even a beta reader and a proofreader said that to me, but it has never been my intention. Donovan is suppose to be controlling (A Second Chance at Love) Eric, not and neither is the mother in my wip the Yaphe Clan. Both Eric and the mother are protective. Is there anything wrong with that? If Eric allowed his wife to work full time and do whatever she wants. he would feel responsible that something bad happened to his wife. If the mother let her daughter find out her identity and that her people who are supposedly peaceful people, she may lose her daughter. After all, the mother is the outlaw. Yet people say they are controlling.
Why would I make my MCs that way? Maybe its because it was the way I was raised. Maybe I have never experience the opposite. My own father was that way toward my mother. He was a jealous husband and he was insecure. He controlled whether she realized it or not. As long as I remember, he never showed any real love to her. he told my mother that he made love to her because she wanted children. He never did. We were either a burden or an asset. What I mean by asset is that he would have one of us do the house work while the other would bring in money. He would not have lifted a finger to work. An example of his controlling nature was when my mother brought home a dress she paid with her own money and he had a fit.
My father never changed until the day he was on his death bed. He never said to any of us that he loved us nor did he affirmed us. His parents were the same way: His dad never showed any affection to his children. It got passed down to my sister and me. My mother refused to divorce or separate. She had taken scripture out of context and said God hates divorce, but the scriptures before that was written to the husband, not to the wives. Women are the weaker vessel. Many can not stand up to their husband and mother had no place to go, not much money and no car. She was stuck, trapped. And to her dying day she had unforgiveness and bitterness in her heart.
So tell me something? Do you think it is possible that I may have written that way because of my upbringing, maybe so. I don;t know any other way to write them. I see Eric as loving and protective and the reader sees him as controlling. I see the mother as fearful and protective but the reader sees her as controlling. Hopefully in book 3 and in any other stories after that, you will fall in love with the hero. I am sorry readers don’t like the way I made them.
Baby Blues only got 3 reviews. Maybe that is because they can’t get passed Eric being “controlling.” I pray that someday, they will get passed it but I can’t change who my leading men are because it would change the story.