Online Dating

There has been a lot of opinions about this subject.  When you tell your friends, “Hey! I met someone online, the number one and most popular comment is: “Be careful.”  And why is that? Because they heard that there are people not to be trusted at those sites. Yes, it is good to be careful. You definitely do not want to give your heart away too soon now would you? After all these scam artists are good at saying the right things. They figure you must be lonely and desperate for love so it should be easy to win your heart. But what if you have been through it countless of times and manage not to be scammed by these people?  I have been careful and maybe too careful.  After the countless of times I have been lied to not because they were scam artists, but control freaks and pervs. Yes, there are all kinds of people out there, but I personally believe you can actually meet someone who is not all three.  I have some friends who met them at websites like eharmony or ChristianCafe.com.  I have other friends who met someone at other websites too so it can’t be all bad now can it?

There is a  saying that  goes like this: “What is good for the goose may not neccesarily be good for the gander” and that is true with online dating. It may work for some but not for others. I seem to fall into the category of the gander. While my sister finally found someone who seems to be a genuine bona fide seeker of love and not of treasure, I get emails from the other kind.  Maybe I should give up and remove myself from those places and  just be an old maid. Maybe all  the good ones are already taken. Or I can  keep on waiting and hoping that the right one will cross  my path. He may just be in Washington State where I will be someday but that seems to be a longs way off.

Now please before you comment, Ia m not asking for your pity or for your advice or anything.  I am writing like it is.  It is in God’s hands and he knows my heart.

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Forbidden Love

What is forbidden love?  Forbidden love is when two people love each other when they shouldn’t. There are reasons to why this is so: The two people in love have  families who are enemies of each other as in Romeo and Juliet. Or each are involved in rival gangs such as West Side Story. However in Marge, it is slightly different.

When Marge was 18 years old, her parents sent her and her twin brother to Italy as a graduation gift. There Marge fell in love with this handsome man named Carliano, who was a few years older than her. This love is forbidden because Marge was a good girl from a middle class family(almost middle class) while Carliano was a poor boy with a bad ass brother.  Both fell in love even though it would not last. Marge had only a week in Italy and her brother was determine  to keep them apart.

15 years later, Marge changed. If Carliano was still see her as she is now, he would not recognize her. She was plain and crippled and also cynical due to how men treated  her in the past. She also put on some weight.  Marge was about to meet her past unknown to her and unknown him he was about to meet her. Although her name stayed the same(except her last name) his name was Carter. There was one thing that stood in the way of Marge and Carliano reuniting and that was Donavan Tradeau.

Donavan hired his three men to bring her to his estate so he can transform her. He was wealthy and  had all the means to do it  He presents a contract for two years in hopes that Marge will sign it, but it takes some effort because of her cynicism.  Donavan is also in love with her. His desire is not only to  make her beautiful again and  able to walk but to make her his wife.  This last wish of his fails. Although  while she is in process of becoming beautiful, he also tore down the wall she put up and exposed a more vulnerable young lady–one with whom Carter is slowly falling in love with and asking himself: Is she my Marge from 15 years ago?

Against his contract, Carter can not have romantic interests in any of the  ladies during transformation. This creates a problem because both Marge and Carter discover that they were once lovers from long ago and because of the contract,  their love has become forbidden.

Long Distance Relationships

As an author, I have never written anything about long distance relationships, but  I have witnessed what it is like for another. It is not easy to fall in love with and stay in love with someone across the miles.  In most cases, people meet someone in the same area where they live whether it be in a  church, the grocery store, the library or even a bus! You can exchange phone numbers and set up times to see each other, but this is not true if the person  who you meet is online. Or maybe you are married, engaged or seeing someone who  is in another country because they are fighting for our country and you miss them  terribly.

The long distance relationship can be very trying on someone if that person  you love is not able to even chat with you online. One person I know like that is my sister.  She met someone at a dating website and I know that this person is not a  scam artist. A scam artist is always online, waiting to chat with you and hoping that he can win your trust and scam you out of your money if you are not careful.  I have seen what this person looks like and believe me , if he was a scam artist, he would have a photo of someone looking gorgeous–this person is not that!  Her love for him is real and she knows in her heart that he loves her.  It is trying on her hard because after  chatting a  few times, he tells her he has to go to the U.K about an inheritance and to some of her friends, they see this as a red flag. However, I looked up “Inheritance scams” on the net and it is nothing like that.  His father who had died  earlier this year had lived and worked in the U.K  so the paperwork is there.  Her boyfriend lives in Texas.   It has been a couple of weeks since he left and although he only sent her  couple of offline messages and maybe an email, it is not enough. Her heart is sick.
One of the consequences of long distance relationships, is the feeling of lovesickness. Your heart  hurts because you miss that person so much and you long to hear from them. It affects everything you do. I am no expert on the subject, but here is a couple of links: http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/44010532/ns/today-today_health/t/truly-madly-deeply-how-love-makes-you-sick/

http://ezinearticles.com/?Love-Sickness—Its-Causes-and-Its-Remedies&id=2958416
I may have had chances of having  a long distance relationship. I once met a man from Alabama who was like a best friend to me.  We had so much in common that I thought it might be possible that we could be  more than friends, but before I could find out if he felt the same, he stopped writing me. I started missing him and wondered why he did. Now, I am still an unclaimed blessing as  my mother likes to call us and no matter who I meet no one could compare to him. Most men I meet all have one tor two things in common: Scam artists or Control Freaks.